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Readers Respond: Co-Workers Behaving Badly

Responses: 85


Everyone has a story about a co-worker's bad behavior. My tale is about a co-worker who would steal food from the refrigerator, ask other people to do her work and brag about how Mommy got her the job! Share your story about something one of your co-workers did that really ticked you off. Don't forget to omit the name of the guilty party — we don't want to embarrass anyone.

horrible co-worker

I just started a new job and the guy I have to work with all day hates me and doesn't try to hide it unless someone is around, normally. Yesterday, during a meeting, I spoke up, and another coworker actually noticed the eye rolling. He nearly winces whenever i speak. Every time I ask a question he LAUGHS at me in a mocking way. I just started this job and am new to the business for god's sake. Today, i got into work, sat down, he sits literally two feet away from me, and ran into the ladies room to cry my eyes out. My boss walked in after me to ask what was wrong. I just told her I just received bad news and she kindly sent me home, I hope she doesn't think I'm a nutcase, but I just don't think she'd understand how badly this guy treats me, cause he sucks up to her big time and she needs him cause she's also new. I thought I could shrug this off but now I don't know. I need this job, so I guess I'll just have to tolerate the cruelty, but I am furiously looking for something else.
—Guest fedup

Fraud, Waste, and Many Forms of Abuse

I work for a manager at an Idaho agency who thinks it is OK to not do his job, be boorish and disgusting, and bully employees. This man makes humiliating and hurtful comments to me and others in meetings. He surfs the Web, reads library books, and takes hour-long walks during work hours, yet he claims an 8-hour day on his time sheet. Under his so-called leadership, our agency has failed to meet federal requirements we must adhere to for funding, such as 70% data capture from monitoring equipment, annual reporting, and equipment precision. He's also disgusting to be around with his perverted comments about female coworkers' bodies, sharing of inappropriate email images and humor, and not washing his hands after his daily constitution. Unprofessional P-I-G, in every sense of the word. It has been torture watching him take taxpayer money when he does nearly zero, being on the receiving end of his status-slap comments, and having the energy sucked out of us by this sociopath.
—Guest Bullied

The Manager That Cries

I have worked for the same retail company for about 5 years. Drama was always in the atmosphere, but it increased when my store manager decided she wanted to get married. She became erratic and started to cry everyday, because of the stress of the wedding and her ill mother. Bringing that kind of (very personal) emotion is definitely inappropriate, but what really got me was recently (after 5 years I have worked with this person) she chewed me out over taking too many weekends off and berated my life saying those days were not important and that I didn't deserve them: she did. Instead of taking me to the side and asking why, and working something out, she cried and used me as her stress ball. On top she has manipulated my pay roll; I believe in spite. (I am figuring out the policy on that before reporting her) I will be quitting soon. No matter what, you don't treat people like that. That was the last straw.
—Guest Fed Up

SR Coordinator

I have worked for a great organization for 6 years now and everything is great except one thing. We have a Senior Coordinator that has worked here a very long time. One minute she is your best friend and the next she is yelling inappropriate things at you. Like today I asked her a question and she yelled at me about a co-worker's husband dying. Whenever she is off for vacation or a sick day the atmosphere in the office is so relaxed and easy going and we all get so much done. But when she is here we are all walking on egg shells. She has got to be close to retirement age, but rumor has it she won't retire. I have shed so many tears over her careless comments. They are so hurtful. But it's not just me. She does this to everyone. Within the organization all you have to do is say her name and people are so sympathetic that I work with her.
—Guest Kim

Diner Server From Hell

I'm a busser, she's a server, need I say more? Yes, actually. After being hired as a busser I found that I would be washing dishes, serving food, taking orders, which is fine with me, whatever. However, every day I work with her I'm near a nervous breakdown by the end of the day. We work the busiest days of the week and she basically gets me to do all her work for her. She criticizes everything I do and how I do it, she wants me to be 4 people at once, she tells me to do one thing and a second later tells me to do another and then gets mad because I didn't finish the first thing... continuously, all day, I can never finish anything because she doesn't let me! She doesn't help if I'm buried in work, she just piled it on and in the last couple days she's stopped answering my questions or answering them very slowly even if they're very urgent. She will berate me in front of customers and complains about me to other coworkers within my ear shot.
—Guest Anon

Nasty Manager

UGH! First let me say I am glad to get this out... I work at a corporate hotel doing payroll so I know and see almost everything. Well the front desk manager is having sex with her bellman. It went from employees seeing them coming out of rooms together over the weekends to now they both have the same address on the employee file. I have mentioned this to our HR director and nothing has come of it. This lady who is a non exempt employee being paid 80 hrs a pay period but only works 60 of the 80. She takes days off and never submits paid time off request. I could scream this is is so stupid, so many people see this and no one is doing anything. So I called our corporate employee relations department to report it anonymously and they tell me that because the hotel I work for is franchised hotel they can not take a claims from me and I need to speak directly to the hotel manager. This is crazy!
—Guest Hotel Girl

The Pyscho Queen

I work with the pyscho queen of all times. I paint landscapes and flowers and hang them in the bathrooms for the co-workers to enjoy (our office is beige and gray). When the queen got mad because after 4 yrs she finally was given a bit of real work (some of my work-since I did 90% of the dept workload-she did the other 10%) to do, she went nuts on my paintings and put 30 holes in them (probably w/pushpins-cause everyone takes them into the bathroom with you). Once they were noticed, she was the only one that could have possibly had a reason to be bugged at me- she was moved to the other side of the office bldg-at least she can terrorize someone on that side of the bldg. now.
—Guest BFAB

Why don't I fight back

Worked with the same lead for 4 years and she's started berating me in front of everyone in the room. It started 2 days after Valentine's and I would have never guessed she could have acted this way toward me. I think there is a provocateur, but who I suspect is the boss's best friend who is like a wife to her. I'm afraid this is going to be an ongoing thing.
—Guest Hurt again

My braggin' boss

My boss is such a braggart she signed herself as Teacher of the year, And to top it all, she did it because her husband got an award. I know she talks on the phone and emails her friends and talks to her kids and gossips while we work our a**s off educating the students with such little pay.
—Guest Delores Gerry

Horrible Boss

I worked for a boss that kept a bottle of alcohol in her desk. She would call me over and tell me to hold out my hands, then slap me with a ruler. She told me all the rime that I wasn't working fast enough. I finally quit and they had to get two people to Do my job.
—Guest ravon

Great site!

Great site! I have more horror stories to share about harassment I've experienced over the last 10 yrs, it's so bad I can not even work in the "corporate world" world anymore. I've experience overt sexual harassment, hostile environments, irresponsible coworkers, inept upper management. It's got much worse since the bush/cheney plutocracy, where autocrats and big business were able and encouraged to treat employees only as wage slaves!). But - what really slays me is how horribly coworkers treat one another in these situations! Instead of "banding together" there is so much back stabbing, sabotage, projection and outright hostility, it's the old adage; pit the slaves against one another, they'll be so busy sabotaging one another that they are blind (and, I'm sorry, and stupid!) that it keeps the attention off of the shenanigans of the real culprits, lousy mid-management and the irresponsible corporations. If workers are not treated with dignity, they will not treat one another with it.
—Guest knowgirl

My boss who is the financial controller

When I came back from lunch my rubbish bin was always emptied on top of my desk. The financial controller told me that when I went to lunch he wanted to know what I was doing in the morning and what I had put on my scrap paper. After a shouting match I warned him not to do it again. He obviously stepped on the driver's toes as they put a dead rat on his car door by hanging the rats tail on the door handle. A popular guy as you can guess.
—Guest Sandra Gray

CoWorker who Expresses

While I respect her for expressing, I do not appreciate or believe that it takes 1 hour to express. 1 hour in the AM to express, 1 hour for lunch, and 1 hour in the afternoon to express is 3 hours, out of 8, away from her desk. C'mon, let's not abuse the privledge of expressing!

Not being talked to

I work for a large company with a relatively small head office team. The word team, though, is very loosely used. One of the sales guys actually stops talking to you if you don't do what he perceives to be your job. Really... stops talking. This includes when you go on vacation. When I was taking holidays last fall (for a week), he and some of the other coworkers were expected to pick up some of my duties. When I was leaving on the last day, I stopped into his neighbour's office and he was there. I said "See you in a week" and the one guy says, "Yeah, have a good time" and the other one, turned to look at the wall and said nothing. I said his name and said, see you in a week. He didn't even respond. I love my job but there are times that I would consider this a hostile environment.
—Guest Dawn

Horrible Boss

My boss is the most manipulative person. She is so mean and demeaning and crazy. She screams at people because she doesn't understand, thinking they don't understand. Once she realizes she was the one in the wrong, she just finishes calmly, acting like no craziness just occurred. Her pay is double everyone else's, and I was even up for a raise, but didn't receive it because she didn't get promoted to whatever crazy position she doesn't deserve. Then of course the next year she knows she still doesn't deserve a raise and some friction occurs between us, and she turns the office against me, so that she can look like the not insane one. It's so wrong. Once again my raise is gone. I've applied to many places and they want me, but I keep hoping if I wait out, I will get what I deserve. It's hurting my health though, I'm becoming depressed and don't know what to do. I just want to give up on working all together because I'm so burnt out by her. She is a daily struggle and I've grown to hate her.
—Guest Work=Life
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